ARTICLES:
Getting Started
- 25 Facts About BDSM That You Won’t Learn In “Fifty Shades Of Grey”, written by Casey Gueren
- 5 Things The ‘Fifty Shades of Grey’ Books Get Wrong About BDSM, shared with permission of and written by Jessica Mason
- About Your Behaviour – It’s making you look ugly, shared with permission of and written by TiedUpReady
- Advice to New people especially females, shared with permission of and written by Sarge_USA
- But I shouldn’t…yes you should, shared with permission of and written by Teething_Pup
- DO’s & DONT’s To Party/Event Play, shared with permission of and written by TrueMaMaBlue
- Etiquette in The Scene 101, written by and shared with permission from HarleyNightShadows
- From Be Safe-Ontario: A letter of advice to new people joining the public scene, by Mad_Patter
- How To Check References, shared with permission and courtesy of _MsTori_, written by Tiamet
- I’m New to All This – What Now, A multi-part introduction to BDSM Communities, written by and shared with permission of Janet Miles
- Mentors, Protectors and Trainers, shared with permission of and written by 2Jays
- Newness and getting out into the kink community, shared with permission of and written by Wykd_Dave
- Newbie Primer, shared with permission of and written by devlyn
- No. Really. Get the fuck off my lawn., by HCoyote
- THE Right Way, by FantMstr
- Safer Sex Booklet, Updated, more comprehensive, includes topics about safer scenes (scene etiquette, power play, negotiation, and more). Produced by NELA (New England Leather Alliance)
- Succeeding in Your Local BDSM Community, shared with permission of and written by RhondaLiz
- Taking the first steps: Newbie guide to the BDSM community, written by and shared with permission of liltala
- Ten things to make sure you don’t really screw up your first year (Power Exchange and BDSM 101), written by and shared with permission of Kadansky
- To Newbie, With Love, shared with permission of and written by writergirl
- You don’t need a Newbie Guide, shared with permission of and written by Susan Wright
MUNCH BASICS:
A beginner’s guide to BDSM Munches, by Jay Wiseman
What’s a Munch? a Social? a Slosh? a POS?, by caryl
Differences between munches, from a discussion on Novices & Newbies, post by BadMouseM
It’s your first munch, eh? I bet you’re thinking…, by ThoughtsofYou
Why Everyone Says Come Out to a Munch to Newcomers, by LilyWhite1
Getting into your local scene, by roo_roo
Tyler’s Practical Guide to Munches & Public Parties, shared with permission of and written by DameTyler
Munch Technique, shared with permission of and written by Malbon
History of the Munch…In the Beginning, shared with permission of and written by i999shadow
How to host a munch, shared with permission of and written by i999shadow.
This is why we tell you to go to munches & events, written by and shared with permission of kitkat_cupcake
Advice for Your First Munch, written by and shared with permission of SecretSmile101
So you’re new at a munch? How to get the most bang for your buck., written and shared with permission of and written by PauleyO
CHECKLISTS
WEBSITES:
A Submissive’s Initiative – Accurate, safe and free information about BDSM
Ambrosio’s BDSM Site – A super collection of resources, including many articles by various authors.
BDSM101– Collection of writings and articles about those looking to get involved in kink..
BDSM Terms
Cowhideman’s Writings Index – Well thought advice by Cowhideman, Owner of FetLife’s Novices & Newbies group.
Healthcare without Shame – “Handbook for the Sexually Diverse and Their Caregivers”
Keeping It Kinky – Researched and Referenced Guide to BDSM
List of Philias – Extensive list of “loves”
No Shades of Grey Free E-book
Submissive Guide – Mentoring, self-help and submissive exploration
Susan’s Place – Support resource for the transgender community which provides information of use to transsexuals, crossdressers, and their familes. Resources available include Chat, Links, Reference Library, Site Reviews, Forums, GRS surgeon reviews, Wiki, and much more.
WizDomme Info Pack D/s “newbie pack”
XeroMag/Franklin’s Page – A great collection of easily digestible and informative essays, such as BDSM for Nice Guys, Exploring 50 Shades, BDSM FAQ and much more.
ARTICLES:
Especially for Dominants/Tops
- 20 Unsolicited tips for new dominants, shared with permission of and written by _Min_
- Learning how to top: From curious to competent, shared with permission of and written by Dev
Especially for Submissives/bottoms/slaves
- Finding your way back to the path “A guide for abandoned or released submissives and slaves”
- A message to S-types- what you REALLY need to know, (tips useful to D-types too), shared with permission of and written by Hisnamaste
Looking for Partners-Playmates
- The 10 Biggest Mistakes To Make When Looking For a Partner, written by and shared with permission of Danaus
- Fetlife Survival Guide for Newcomers: Part 2 – Thinking about meeting someone to play, shared with permission of and written by 2Jays
- Finding Others with Common (Adult) Interests, shared with permission of and written on For The Love of a Submissive
Using FetLife
- Fetlife Survival Guide for Newcomers: Part 1 – Setting up a Profile, shared with permission of and written by 2Jays
- How to connect with local kinksters on FetLife, shared with permission of and written by PhoenixFox.
- Messaging Etiquette on FetLife, shared with permission of and written by TiedUpReady
- The semi satirical New-to-Fetlife guide, shared with permission of and written by Master_James_
How to Do What It Is That We Do (WIITWD)
- 10 Things I Wish I’d Known as a Bondage Top, by PassionAndSoul
- Animated Knots by Grog™ – Features include: Find a Knot by Name, Knot Terminology, Knot & Rope Safety, Rope Properties, app for Android/Apple.
- Male Chastity-FAQ, Links & Glossary of Terms – For beginner male chastity device wearers. Written by and shared with permission of Aarkey
- Newness and getting out into the kink community, shared with permission of and written by Wykd_Dave
- Rope Bottom Guide, shared with permission of and written by Wykd_Dave, available in Deutsch, English, French, Hebrew, Italian, Polish, Russian
- Watersports [How’s That Work], by Wintersong Tashlin